Daniel Hoffman specializes in Couples Therapy and Relationships. Come as a couple or individually to improve your relationship . . . and yourself. Don’t put if off any longer. Get unstuck today.
Couples therapy can help you:
Improve Communication
Resolve Conflict
Renew Intimacy and Connection
Adjust to Change
Explore the Future
Strengthen the Relationship
Adjust to a new baby/postpartum support
Parent Effectively Together
Recover from an affair
Emotionally Focused Therapy with Daniel Hoffman in Tulsa who has over 16 years experience with couples and individuals to restore hope, build confidence, and feel connected to love and life again.
Affair Recovery
I have helped marriages who have felt broken and lost their way come back together even stronger to heal, restore and trust again through affair recovery work in marriage therapy.
Emotionally Focused Therapy -EFT.
When your relationship is in trouble, simple worksheets and gimmicky communication strategies aren’t going to save it. Your challenges and needs go deeper than that. You’ve already sought advice from friends. Although you appreciate their support, you don’t need more people to side against your partner. You need a professional who is on your side as a couple, and someone who knows how to help you move forward together. You need help to reconnect, heal, and feel like true partners again.
Emotionally Focused Therapy addresses the root causes of disconnection and miscommunication in relationships. You don’t want to waste time addressing symptoms - you want to get to the core issues that can make or break your relationship.
EFT is arguably the most empirically founded model of couples therapy to date. Research demonstrates that 70% of couples who complete EFT recover from marital distress, and 90% have significant improvement. These improvements are shown to be long-term with little regression. This compares to a very low 35% recovery rate and high rates of relapse/regression for traditional behavioral therapies in couples therapy. What’s really cool is that studies also show that EFT can be effective in reducing symptoms of PTSD and depression when these issues occur alongside marital distress.
Discover the best couples therapist in Tulsa that makes you
STRONGER CALMER LIGHTER
TOGETHER LOVED
R · E · S · T · O · R · E · D
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The Real Needs in Couples Relationships:
All of us come into this world needing the security of loving relationships. This need for safe emotional connection is lifelong - it stays with us from the cradle to the grave. When you fear that your partner isn’t there for you, that you don’t really matter, or that you can’t turn to him/her for comfort and strength, your relationship can easily slip into negative patterns that reinforce your fears and your disconnection.
The core of pain, conflict, and distance that you’re experiencing likely comes from your answer to these questions:
Are you there for me? Are we in this together?
Am I important to you?
Can I turn to you for comfort and strength?
If I am hurting or afraid, will you come to me?
Do you accept and value me for who I am?
Can I relax and be my real self with you?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help you get right to the heart of the matter - bringing back the acceptance, belonging, comfort, and connection that you want to feel with your partner.
How can EFT help us save our marriage?
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you get unstuck from negative patterns and build secure bonds of love and trust. As this happens, you build confidence that you can truly count on each other. You both come to trust each other to “be there” during both the joyful and the difficult moments of life. In this way, EFT helps you create a safe haven within your relationship:
Your relationship can become a place where each of you feels deeply valued.
Both of you will learn to confidently turn to each other for comfort and strength
You’ll gain a solid sense of partnership where you work together to address challenges.
Your sense of true belonging will increase as your relationship becomes a place where you are unafraid to be yourself.
With the help of Emotionally Focused Therapy, you can create a connection that becomes the foundation for a lifetime of love.
Couples Counseling
Does it feel like the love and deep connection that once defined your relationship has given way to anger, blame, hurt, and painful conflict? Perhaps you have been fighting too much or, alternatively, not communicating at all. Are you afraid that your partner no longer loves you, is not concerned with your feelings or needs, or would rather being doing anything other than spending time with you? Are you longing to reconnect, but find your attempts get spun into arguments, leaving you feeling alone and disconnected?
If you are like most couples, even the unhappiest of couples, you have invested a lot of time and emotion into your partner and your relationship. If you CAN save the relationship and if you CAN learn to come together again, the payoff is huge. Many couples who have come back from the brink of breakup report that their relationship is stronger than it could have been had they never gotten to that edge. There are a myriad of reasons not to give up.
Why should I choose a trained EFT therapist over another marriage counselor?
Couples counseling is my passion at Restoration Couples Therapy. I know that your relationship is your most important possession—so when you need help, you deserve the very best approach. I have been trained in the most effective approach to helping save marriages: Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Proven Effectiveness: EFT is based not only on solid research about marriage and the nature of love, but also on research about how to help people change the patterns in marriage and establish loving bonds.
Lasting Results: When you and your partner do the work to save your relationship, you want lasting results—love and closeness you can count on. Research shows that positive results from Emotionally Focused Therapy remain stable for most couples long after they have finished counseling. When you’ve done the work, you can feel confident that your relationship will thrive long after therapy has stopped.
Continual Improvement: While Emotionally Focused Therapy has been studied for several decades, our knowledge of how to best help couples continues to advance. New findings and knowledge from various fields (e.g., neuroscience, attachment/adult bonding, etc.) are continuously integrated into our approach in helping couples like you improve your marriage or partnership.
If you’d like to increase your closeness, improve communication, stop fighting, or renew the spark of early courtship, then EFT can work for you. Act now to take a real step toward restoring love, trust, and intimacy in your marriage.
Emotionally Focused Therapy Testimonials
“One of the few approaches to marital therapy that has been proven to be effective.” —Jay Lebow, Ph.D, President, Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
“EFT gives a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.” —John Gottman, Ph.D, Bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
“EFT is one of the best documented, most substantive and well researched approaches to couple therapy.” —Alan S. Gurman, Ph.D
“EFT has achieved an astounding 75 percent success rate. Results are lasting!” —American Psychological Association
